The Tao of Love

A discussion about how to love your partner. Part 1: On the Subject of Sacrifice as it Pertains to the Nature of Love Part 2: On the Importance of Maintaining Equilibrium in Love Part 3: On the Importance of Mutual Respect and Understanding Part 4: On Devotion and One’s Motivation For It

Big Fish

Lisa and I talked about fishes and ponds the other night. We were talking about whether it is better to be a big fish in a small pond or vice-versa. In high school, she was a big fish in a small pond and I was a big fish in a big pond. Did this affect […]

Marriage and What Comes After

I stated before that marriage marks the beginning of a new stage in the relationship. Even though I’ve stated I’ve felt married to Lisa for years, marriage is still a new beginning in my eyes. Despite what strength our relationship holds, regardless of the trials we have blazed through together, society has not considered us […]

How To Measure?

One of the things I love about JadedStaccato is that she keeps me on my toes: nice resolutions- how would you measure your performance on items 1 through 4? =) – JadedStaccato This brings me to today’s entry and the answer to that important question. I would measure the goals in relation to today’s status […]

To Live

Men are born knowing how to die–our task is to learn how to live.

Breeders

Anyone see smallville tonight WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! In response to buddhawish (also posted as a comment on her site), hopefully this will lead to an interesting discussion–please leave your thoughts and comments on the subject. Italicized sentences are excerpts from the comment she left to my entry on Tuesday. This comment depends on when the couple first […]

The Tao of Love Part 4

Happy Birthday Darling!! On Devotion and One’s Motivation For It Devotion is selfless affection and dedication for your partner. Liek the other keys to sustaining mutual love, devotion should always be reciprocal. Each partner’s state of mind should be to love the other without the expectation that they will be “rewarded.” This statement may seem […]

The Tao of Love Part 3

On the Importance of Mutual Respect and Understanding All should know that respect is an imporant part of any relationship, but it is especially important between a couple. Respect relates to the two previously mentioned requisities for healthy love, sacrifice and balance. Respect for your partner should lead you to both of these. What does […]

The Tao of Love Part 2

On the Importance of Maintaining Equilibrium in Love To sustain mutual love, balance is vitally important. In a relationship permeated by respect, each partner must be sympathetic with the other. One partner should not be the exclusive “giver.” Both partners should do their best to give everything they can to the relationship and to each […]

The Tao of Love Part 1

This week, my darling baby bear moves into the ripe age of twenty. In celebration, I plan to compose a week-long series of entries inspired by her! (I emphasize the word plan.) The thoughts below reflect my opinion alone. Feel free to share your opinion in a constructive manner. < p style=”FONT: 8pt verdana”> (Please […]

Praise

Anyone of my friends can tell you taht I’m not a big complement giver. Unless someone really wows me, I don’t give words of praise or admiration. To understand why, take a look at American Idol (this entry was inspired by JadedStaccato’s): There are some horrible singers who go on the show–at least compared the […]

Maturity

BenXiaoHai and Wen_He are arguing about maturity. The following is my response. Be prepared for inside jokes. My definition of maturity: (from dictionary.com) The state or quality of being fully grown or developed. Wen_He if you’re trying to be fully grown already and emphasize it that’s okay. You gotta realize that we like the person […]

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